Systems of Us
Couples counseling - relationship & intimacy coaching
Relationships are living systems - characterized by experiences, attachment patterns, needs and protective mechanisms.
Systems of Us is a coaching space for people who want to live relationships, intimacy and sexuality more consciously - with themselves and with others.
I accompany individuals, couples and various relationship constellations.
Monogamous, open, poly, queer or beyond classic relationship models.
All forms of relationship are welcome.
Some come alone to understand themselves better. Some come in pairs or as a relationship system to experience relationship as a form of resonance, presence and growth.
Perhaps there is an issue that you would like more clarity on - relationship, intimacy, sexuality or the dynamics that are currently preoccupying you. An initial consultation helps you to put your concerns into words, recognize initial patterns and find a suitable framework for your next steps.
Relationship counseling for open, polyamorous & queer constellations
Systems of Us offers couples counseling and relationship counseling for people who want to live or reflect on relationships beyond traditional norms. This includes monogamous couples as well as open relationships, polyamorous constellations, ethical non-monogamy, queer relationships and other non-heteronormative relationship systems.
Many people seek couples counseling because they want more clarity, connection or orientation - especially when relationships become more turbulent or change. In non-monogamous or queer relationships, there is often a lack of suitable spaces in which dynamics can be truly understood without being judged or simplified.
This is where my work comes in.
Typical topics in couples and
Relationship counseling are:
Communication and conflicts in open or polyamorous relationships
Dealing with Jealousy, uncertainty or different needs
Closeness, intimacy and Sexuality in long-term relationships
Boundaries, Desire and responsibility
Decision-making processes: Stay, change or separate
Why consulting with Systems of Us?
Many traditional couples counseling services are based on heteronormative relationship models.
For people in open, polyamorous or queer relationships, this often doesn't feel right.
At Systems of Us you will find a room in which:
non-monogamous relationships are normalized
queer and diverse relationship constellations are welcome
all perspectives are heard, without apportioning blame
relationship is not optimized, but understood
Consulting services
Relationship work needs a safe framework - and permission to be honest.
Single
For you if you want to reflect on relationship patterns, attachment and intimacy - regardless of whether you are currently in a partnership. You have space to explore your patterns, needs and boundaries as well as experiences of closeness and intimacy - at your own pace and without judgment.
Pair
For couples who want to consciously shape their relationship - monogamous, open or in transition. You will have a safe space to look at closeness in a new way - without assigning blame and with a view to what is working between you.
Multi-person
For relationships in which there is room for more than two people. I offer you a space in which different perspectives can coexist. It's about listening, making dynamics visible, understanding needs and strengthening connection and intimacy.
Frame
The meetings take place online via Zoom. This provides a protected framework - independent of location and flexible.
Costs: CHF 90 per 1 hour // CHF 135 per 1.5 hours
The aim is to develop sustainable forms of connection - or to gain clarity about how transitions and separations can be shaped respectfully.
About me...
My name is Michelle Novak.
I accompany people in couple and relationship processes with clarity, presence and respect for the complexity of human connection.
I studied chemical engineering at the ETH. This systemic thinking still shapes my work today: for me, dynamics are not deficits, but comprehensible relationships that can be understood and changed.
I have been in a long-term relationship for over 14 years. For seven years in a non-normative relationship structure. These experiences have shown me how challenging, honest and at the same time enriching relationships beyond normative models can be.
I am currently training to become a couples counselor at the IKP (Institut für Körperzentrierte Psychotherapie). I combine specialist knowledge with lived experience - clear, present and respectful.
Not as an expert on your life, but as a companion at your side.
Retreat Osco TI
Relaxation, peace and strength
When: October 1 - 4, 2026
Where: Osco TI
Hosts: Michelle Novak and Bianca Lucia Wyrsch
Be part of the puresense retreat, where regeneration is given space, growth becomes possible, strength becomes tangible and progress comes naturally.
Pilatesflows
individual workshops
Excursions
Vegan catering
Accommodation Piazza Münicipi 18, Osco
Room for two, max. 12 participants
Time for rest and reflection