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Systems of Us
Couples counseling - relationship & intimacy coaching
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Relationships are living systems - characterized by experiences, attachment patterns, needs and protective mechanisms.<\/p>

Systems of Us is a coaching space for people who want to live relationships, intimacy and sexuality more consciously - with themselves and with others.\u00a0<\/p>

I accompany individuals, couples and various relationship constellations.<\/p>

Monogamous, open, poly, queer or beyond classic relationship models.<\/p>

All forms of relationship are welcome.<\/p>

Some come alone to understand themselves better. Some come in pairs or as a relationship system to experience relationship as a form of resonance, presence and growth.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Perhaps there is an issue that you would like more clarity on - relationship, intimacy, sexuality or the dynamics that are currently preoccupying you. An initial consultation helps you to put your concerns into words, recognize initial patterns and find a suitable framework for your next steps.<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Relationship counseling for open, polyamorous & queer constellations<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Systems of Us offers couples counseling and relationship counseling for people who want to live or reflect on relationships beyond traditional norms. This includes monogamous couples as well as open relationships, polyamorous constellations, ethical non-monogamy, queer relationships and other non-heteronormative relationship systems.<\/p>

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Many people seek couples counseling because they want more clarity, connection or orientation - especially when relationships become more turbulent or change. In non-monogamous or queer relationships, there is often a lack of suitable spaces in which dynamics can be truly understood without being judged or simplified.<\/p>

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Typical topics in couples and
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Communication<\/strong> and conflicts in open or polyamorous relationships<\/p>

Dealing with Jealousy<\/strong>, uncertainty or different needs<\/p>

Closeness, intimacy and Sexuality<\/strong> in long-term relationships<\/p>

Boundaries<\/strong>, Desire and responsibility<\/p>

Decision-making processes<\/strong>: Stay, change or separate<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Why consulting with Systems of Us?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Many traditional couples counseling services are based on heteronormative relationship models.\u00a0<\/p>

For people in open, polyamorous or queer relationships, this often doesn't feel right.<\/p>

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At Systems of Us you will find a room in which:<\/strong><\/p>

non-monogamous relationships are normalized<\/p>

queer and diverse relationship constellations are welcome<\/p>

all perspectives are heard, without apportioning blame<\/p>

relationship is not optimized, but understood<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Relationship work needs a safe framework - and permission to be honest.<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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For you if you want to reflect on relationship patterns, attachment and intimacy - regardless of whether you are currently in a partnership. You have space to explore your patterns, needs and boundaries as well as experiences of closeness and intimacy - at your own pace and without judgment.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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For couples who want to consciously shape their relationship - monogamous, open or in transition. You will have a safe space to look at closeness in a new way - without assigning blame and with a view to what is working between you.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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For relationships in which there is room for more than two people. I offer you a space in which different perspectives can coexist. It's about listening, making dynamics visible, understanding needs and strengthening connection and intimacy.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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The meetings take place online via Zoom. This provides a protected framework - independent of location and flexible.<\/p><\/blockquote>

Costs:\u00a0<\/strong>CHF 90 per 1 hour \/\/ CHF 135 per 1.5 hours<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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The aim is to develop sustainable forms of connection - or to gain clarity about how transitions and separations can be shaped respectfully.<\/em><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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My name is Michelle Novak.<\/p>

I accompany people in couple and relationship processes with clarity, presence and respect for the complexity of human connection.<\/p>

I studied chemical engineering at the ETH. This systemic thinking still shapes my work today: for me, dynamics are not deficits, but comprehensible relationships that can be understood and changed.<\/p>

I have been in a long-term relationship for over 14 years. For seven years in a non-normative relationship structure. These experiences have shown me how challenging, honest and at the same time enriching relationships beyond normative models can be.<\/p>

I am currently training to become a couples counselor at the IKP (Institut f\u00fcr K\u00f6rperzentrierte Psychotherapie). I combine specialist knowledge with lived experience - clear, present and respectful.<\/p>

Not as an expert on your life, but as a companion at your side.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Not \u201eyou against me\u201c, but us against the pattern.
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Retreat Osco TI<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Relaxation, peace and strength<\/p>

When: October 1 - 4, 2026<\/p>

Where: Osco TI<\/p>

Hosts: Michelle Novak and Bianca Lucia Wyrsch<\/a><\/p>

Be part of the puresense retreat, where regeneration is given space, growth becomes possible, strength becomes tangible and progress comes naturally.<\/p>

Pilatesflows<\/p>

individual workshops<\/p>

Excursions<\/p>

Vegan catering<\/p>

Accommodation Piazza M\u00fcnicipi 18, Osco<\/p>

Room for two, max. 12 participants<\/p>

Time for rest and reflection<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Systems of UsPaarberatung \u00b7 Beziehungs-& Intimit\u00e4tscoaching Beziehungen sind lebendige Systeme \u2013 gepr\u00e4gt von Erfahrungen, Bindungsmustern, Bed\u00fcrfnissen und Schutzmechanismen. Systems of Us ist ein Coachingraum\u00a0f\u00fcr Menschen, die Beziehung, Intimit\u00e4t und Sexualit\u00e4t bewusster leben m\u00f6chten \u2013 mit sich selbst und mit anderen.\u00a0 Ich begleite Einzelpersonen, Paare und vielf\u00e4ltige Beziehungs-konstellationen. Monogam, Offen, Poly, Queer oder jenseits klassischer Beziehungsmodelle. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-34","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/34","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34"}],"version-history":[{"count":590,"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/34\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3245,"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/34\/revisions\/3245"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.systemsofus.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}